Friday, October 9, 2020

Enough is enough

This might be a long note bear with me but... This could be the voice of any woman or a girl who's out there... Who's not able to raise their voices for the injustice happening in front of them in any form ....be it verbal abuse by family members post marriage or a physical abuse by the society in the form of sexual abuse or domestic abuse by extended family members or step parents or anyone.... 
How many of us bear the abuses done by husband or mother-in-law but still,  to impress others we never raise our voice and keep everything inside and it bursts one day? 
How many of us cry inside our heart and long for a caring shoulder especially from husband to pat us yet it doesn't happen that way???
We've been infused with the thoughts that if you raise your voice against your husband you're a dominant wife... If you raise voice against your in-laws your brought up will be questioned by your in-laws... If you're dominant in your workplace you're a dominant leader... 
We have seen so many Nirbhayas getting justice posthumously after years and years of court hearing yet everyday so many Nirbhayas are raped.... Out of which hardly one or two comes to light... 
We teach girls to shut their mouth when they speak against their parents and we pull girl children in when a guy comes to our home or we see to that a girl or woman wears a proper dress so that other men can walk freely in this society... But how many of us teach our sons to keep their mouth shut when they ogle at girls? Or when they are adamant at home? 
For how many years are we still going to say that men will be men and we need to adjust for the family to keep moving? 
For how many generations are  we going to blame that mother is the sole responsible person in bringing up a child yet the process happens by the fusion of a man and woman???? 
For how many generations will the girl's or daughter-in-law's parents will be blamed for the behaviour of the daughter-in-law yet the husband will never be questioned of his act????
For how many years are we women still going to keep adjusting and finally at the age of 50/60 we say to our children that" I didn't live my life... at least you raise your voice and live your life" which will never ever happen??? 
Raise your voice.... We are not here to impress anyone and finally gain a bad name that we are unfit to be in the family or society.... teach your daughters to not accept whoever or whichever is not right in their eyes! Teach your daughters that their opinion matters and they're respected... teach your daughters to be bold and make their lodge colourful! 
There's a difference between being bold and being fiesty! 
To all the coward men out there , either support your wife / daughter when need arises or keep your ass away so that we will stand for our own justice! 
There's no point in crying after losing a diamond (wife/daughter) by wearing a mask that you're a good son to your mother! Because you're today a parent of a girl child and the way you treat and react to your wife will be the same way you'll be treating, bringing up and you'll be raising your voice for your daughter!


For heaven sake this post is not to bring any sensational news amidst the horrors happening to the women or girls around the country! This is the voice of every other girl and I'm not here to gain any likes for this blog... This is an individual's point of view..