We all know Adam and Eve existed in this world… lets say they were created by God like us… they came into this materialistic world and we believe that’s how human life came into existence. When God created men and women he created two different worlds which had totally different thoughts in whatever they do. Wasn’t he aware that people wont be happy if they became as one? Or did he purposely created 2 different worlds just to show that there is another world also to look beyond?
Yes… I would say the above statement is true to some extent. I don’t know how many people would have read the book “Men are from Mars Women are from Venus” by John Gray where the author beautifully describes who men are and women are. Many of us fail to understand that there are two different world existing in a single world called relationship. When I say about relationship its not only concerned about relationship between a man and women or a boy and a girl… for every relationship to sustain and to maintain a friendly ambience with every individual I personally feel that understanding an individual is important, especially when it comes to blood relationships it is the prime factor for a relationship to sustain for life long.
I have heard guys saying its really tough to understand what exactly a girl needs and they say that girls cant be satisfied at any point of time. Girls on the other hand say that guys never understand a girl’s world or feelings and always blame them. I have wondered many a times is it really that tough to understand two people of opposite sex? Unfortunately the answer sometimes seems to be true… but I would say that there is solution for every simple problems that these two people face with each other.
Take for example we go out and meet the outside world.. we face many people everyday and learn new things, but they are not always related to us… in real scenario its not the situation… we have to deal with people who mean to us! And in such cases we happen to encounter with different opinions and views which are contradictory to each other. I always wonder how come two people in a relationship of opposite sex blame each other for their difference in opinions! Because we are ready to accept the difficulties we face with our colleagues but not with our own relationships…. When a Manager or a superior says that we are not upto the mark we take it light and think in mind that we have to work hard to show in front of him or her, but when a wife or husband says the same we are not ready to accept it??!! Where does the ego come from? In fact I would say there shouldn’t be ego between people who are in a relationship….
Well… before saying these I would like to see who a guy or a man is, what and how his thoughts are, actions, the way he takes life etc. and the same way for girls or women too..
For a guy, when he is in childhood he is taken care by his parents like a girl child is taken care. When he attains adolescent he slowly starts maintaining a distance from his family and feels friends as his world. His requirements become different and he starts viewing the world in a different way and to be precise he starts living in a world where he sees sentiments as a hindrance, God as non-existing material and lives in a materialistic world where money and work alone matters him.
On the other hand, girls are in general bound to be family oriented and they abide by the rules of their family… if she is a modern girl who had been brought up in a upper middle class society the so called “socialism” will be less visible with her. She is also brought up with the thought family comes first when she has to chose between personal life or professional life and this is the trend followed for years and decades together. If a woman is working, even then she is still expected to take care of the family first and then she has to give importance to her profession and she too makes her mind so by the time she is married.
So we can very well see that there is a very large difference in opinion when it comes to people of opposite sex. In this kind of scenario the situation of girls becomes worse when they want their guy’s or partner’s attention and they start arguing and find faults with each other…
So as I said in the beginning, didn't Adam and Eve had misunderstandings? Or for that matter, wouldn't every successful relationships have had arguments in their relationships? Everybody would have had, but that was communicated and understood... For every problem its better to talk and know each other’s expectations . Generally no individual will like to have advice from each other. When views and opinions are discussed and brought to the notice of the opposite sex problems will be solved and there wont be any nagging by both the genders.
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